Practice 5. Individual Vision¶

This practice will help you articulate your vision of the future. Write your answers freely. It is important to write in the first person (“I want…”, “I see myself…”) so that the vision reflects your own desires and goals.

Questions for reflection¶

1. How do I see myself in 3–5 years?¶

2. How do I see our relationship in 3–5 years?¶

3. What is most important to me in a relationship?¶

4. Which conditions do I want to change in the future?¶

5. Which needs do I want to meet better than I do now?¶

6. Which functions (personal or shared) do I want to develop?¶

7. Which of my personal dreams and fantasies do I want to preserve, even if they are not fully realized?¶

Conclusion¶

After you complete it, discuss your vision with your partner. Comparing individual visions helps you find the common core and identify differences that can be incorporated into the shared picture of the future.