Practice 4. Simplified Diagnostic¶

This simplified diagnostic will help each partner identify the main conditions, needs, and functions right now. Fill it out individually first, then discuss together.

Step 1. Individual selection¶

1. Choose up to 5 key conditions that influence your life right now:¶

2. Choose up to 5 needs that are most important to you right now:¶

3. Assess the functions:¶

What I do well:

What I lack:

Step 2. Short answers¶

Answer freely (in 2–3 sentences):

What do I like about how we live now?

What is the hardest for me right now in our relationship?

Which of my personal strengths supports our relationship?

What do I need most from you right now?

Step 3. Joint discussion¶

After filling it out individually, discuss together:

Where the selected conditions and needs overlap, where they differ.
What each person does well and where support is needed.
Read your short answers to each other.